Grieving and Divorce: The normal ways couples process the end of a marriage

Bobbie Dillon

Bobbie Dillon

According to the Holmes and Rahe Life Events Scale divorce is second only to death as the most stressful life event a person can experience. Yet each person experiences the loss of their marriage differently. The length of the marriage, the strength of feelings one partner has toward the other, the presence of children, which partner initiated the divorce, how much time has passed since the idea of divorce was raised—all and more influence the emotional impact of divorce when it occurs.

Read the rest of Bobbie’s article to learn about the stages of grief and what resources are available to help you cope.

Divorce & Debt

Daniel Burns

Daniel Burns

Many people are under the impression that they are responsible for the debts of their spouse simply because they are married. But,

– Getting married does not necessarily make you responsible for your spouse’s debts;
– Getting divorced does not necessarily release you from debts incurred while you were married.

Read the rest of Dan’s article to learn how to dealt with debt during a divorce.

 

Friends and Your Divorce

Barbara Kimbrough

Barbara Kimbrough

The difficult time of separation or divorce is emotionally and sometimes financially stressful. Unless you’ve been through it before, you are sailing uncharted waters. During this time, having a good support system is very important. You may need your friends more than ever.

That said, for any of your friends that have not experienced separation or divorce themselves, it can be hard to relate to what you are going through. They may not understand your choices, especially if you initiated the divorce. They might not get that it was the best of some not-very-good options, and realize just how hard it is for you. Some may even be a little jealous of your new–found ‘freedom’. Read the rest of Barbara’s article to learn more about relationships with friends during a divorce.

From the Child’s Point of View

Clare Piro

Clare Piro

I am fortunate enough to say that I am not a child of divorce. Since I don’t have that first-hand experience, I have strived, as most mediators do, to learn about the impact of divorce on children and how that can be ameliorated. In mediation, the best interest of the children is paramount.

Even when the parents are well-intentioned and have the admittedly oxymoronic “good divorce,” there is still a devastating affect on children. Read the rest of Clare’s article to look at divorce from the child’s point of view and learn what parents and the mediator can do to minimize the negative impact.

 

On The Radio: Part 2

Ada Hasloecher

Ada Hasloecher

In a prior blog, I mentioned that I had the pleasure of appearing twice on Dr. Duffy Spencer’s radio show, Just Relationships. The conversation was lively and engaging and the time flew.

In this second installment, we go more deeply into:
– The practical aspects of conducting a divorce mediation;
– The dynamics that abound during the process;
– The specific areas that are covered;
– What it takes to complete a mediation successfully.

Listen to Ada’s second interview as she explores the world of divorce and family mediation in greater detail.

Prenups 101: Back to Basics!

Deborah Hope Wayne

Deborah Hope Wayne

After working on a variety prenups for all different types of clients over the years, I’ve realized that no matter the situation, everyone can benefit from some basic information on prenuptial agreements. I wanted to provide answers to some of the more commonly asked questions I receive from clients.

1. What exactly is a prenup?
2. Why do I need to worry about a prenup right now?
3. Doesn’t a prenup mean that my fiancé and I don’t trust each other?
4. Why do I need an attorney to draft it? Can’t we do it ourselves?
5. What will my prenup include?
6. What if my fiancé and I want to change the prenup after we’re married?
7. What if we decide we want a prenup after we’re married?
Read Deborah’s article to learn the answers to these questions.

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