Ask For What You Need – Mind Readers Are Hard To Find

David Louis

David Louis

In our house, we keep a shopping list for the next person who goes out to buy groceries. I’m not the best at putting things on that list, and so when my wife has returned from shopping, and something I needed wasn’t purchased, I have only myself to blame – how could I expect her to read my mind about something I wanted?

When I am meeting with clients in divorce mediation, I encourage them to make their own list of personal needs as they plan their futures. More importantly, I urge each to be certain to speak up about any specific request that will require their spouse’s agreement.

For examples of things to ask for when in mediation, be sure to read the rest of David’s article.

I’m Ready to Get Divorced, but My Spouse Isn’t. Part One – Getting Started

Clare Piro

Clare Piro

It’s rare in my practice for both parties to be in the same frame of mind about getting a divorce. Most often, one person is more prepared for the process and the separation, and the other party may not even have come to terms with the concept that the marriage will come to an end. What can each of them do?

When I used to litigate, you needed grounds for divorce, and if the person who wanted the divorce had no grounds and the other person was hesitant to divorce, then the person who wanted the divorce would either have to stay married or be prepared to make a very generous settlement offer. Now, New York has no-fault grounds for divorce, but the parties need to settle all parenting and financial matters between them before a divorce judgment will issue on the grounds of irretrievable breakdown of the marriage.

Similarly, in mediation, you can’t proceed unless both parties agree to the process. Read the rest of Clare’s article to learn strategies on how to move forward.

Upstate Mini-Conference September 6, 2014

Save the Date: Saturday, September 6, 2014

Canandaigua, New York

Details to Follow

Upstate Mini-Conference

Save the Date: Saturday, September 6, 2014

Canandaigua, New York

Details to Follow

The Many Faces of Mediation: Elder Parents & Adult Siblings

Susan Ingram

Susan Ingram

 

While most people have heard of divorce mediation, far fewer are aware that mediation can also be extremely helpful in discussing difficult issues that arise with respect to elder parents and their adult children.

There are many concerns that need to be addressed as a parent ages. These concerns may focus on:

  • Housing and living arrangements
  • Need for additional caregiving
  • Need for financial help
  • Quality of life
  • Healthcare decisions
  • Estate planning

Read Susan’s full article to learn how mediation can provide a productive forum to bring the family members together to discuss these issues and reach pragmatic solutions.

 

 

Divorce in Good Health

Jennifer Safian

Jennifer Safian

In my previous blog, I wrote about how stress can make us very angry at times, impacting our emotional well being. As such, it may have devastating consequences on our moods as well as on our health. How do you combat it? Exercise and healthy nutrition can provide amazing beneficial effects and should not be disregarded.

Read the rest of Jennifer’s article to learn how people going through separation and divorce can maintain a healthy lifestyle.

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