Upstate Mini-Conference September 19, 2015

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2015 Upstate Mini-Conference

Don’t Wait Until It’s Too Late

Jennifer Safian

Jennifer Safian

“Why is it that all of a sudden when we are getting divorced, my husband wants to have so much time with our children? Why does he want to take them away from me? While we were married, I was always taking care of everything for the children, and now he wants to be Super Dad!”

Life is such that sometimes it takes a major disruption to awaken us and show us what we are missing. Read the rest of Jennifer’s article to learn how to seize the day and not wait to go through a major crisis in order to live life to its fullest!

NYSCDM Conference Featured in Harrison Rising

hr 2Excerpt from Harrison Rising:

During the New York State Council on Divorce Mediation annual conference at the Renaissance Westchester Hotel (April 30-May 2), divorce mediators from throughout the state met to discuss this less-adversarial way for couples to end marriages and domestic partnerships.

They covered a variety of topics including how divorce mediation puts families and children first, helps couples develop effective parenting plans and creates customized solutions to deal with financial matters (spousal maintenance, health care, pensions, Social Security, business valuations, and more).
Trained in conflict resolution, these professionals also addressed strategies on how to deal with challenges such as spousal abuse, violence and high-conflict personalities.

“For families in conflict, divorce mediation can be the preferred choice for resolving their issues, dissolving their unions and moving on with their lives,” said Clare Piro, an attorney and divorce mediator based in Harrison. During the conference, Piro was recognized for completing her two-year term as NYSCDM president. To read the rest of the article, click here and go to page 4.


NYSCDM & Clare Piro Featured in Daily Voice

Clare Piro

Clare Piro


The New York State Council on Divorce Mediation and Clare Piro were featured in the Harrison Daily Voice last week in an article about the annual conference. Click here for the full article.


As Less Couples Say “I Do,” More Couples Opt for No-Nups

Deborah Hope Wayne

Deborah Hope Wayne

I’ve blogged before about different elements of pre-nups and how to approach making one with your significant other. However, the focus of pre-nups is usually about opening up communication channels and building a foundation for a healthy marriage.

I recently read an article in the New York Times which focused on “no-nups” – agreements that couples enter into without an upcoming wedding. The no-nup is essentially a cohabitation agreement which is a legal agreement made by two people choosing to live together. As fewer couples look to walk down the aisle, cohabitation is becoming more commonplace. Although a no-nup may be formed for a couple with no intent to marry, the underlying principle remains the same – for each party to know “where they stand” and to be protected no matter what the relationship may bring.

When a couple chooses to move in together and build a life with one another, there are a lot of things to consider and a lot of emotions to handle. While there is nothing too glamorous about drafting a no-nuptial agreement, it could potentially bring a couple closer together and build a strong foundation for the future. Read the rest of Deborah’s article to learn more details about no-nups.

Going Without and Going Within

Rachel Alexander

Rachel Alexander

One of the challenges of divorce is going without. Almost everyone goes through a monetary strain during divorce because running two households costs close to twice as much as running one (about 40% more). This translates into limiting expenditures and implementing new “no”s. Parents may be especially concerned about the kind of effect these “new no”s may have on their children. “No”s can trigger frustration, anger, feeling of unfairness and even stirrings of unworthiness.

Because of the loaded power of new limits, it’s important to anticipate what may come up for kids who, for example, learn they can’t do travel soccer this season or won’t be going to camp. So the question arises: what actually makes children feel deprived? What can kids do without and what can’t they?

Read the rest of Rachel’s article to learn strategies parents can use to help children not feel deprived.