We know that old adage: “Be careful what you ask for because you might get it.” How many of us have lived to see this come true! I see this maxim not so much as a warning, which tends to paralyze us, but more as a caution which makes us stop, think and take things into more careful consideration.
Rarely does anyone come to the mediation table dancing a jig. Separation and divorce is serious business – very serious business. No matter how much one may feel they have reached the point in their marriage that separating is the only option; no matter how clearly they may feel that it is absolutely the right thing to do; it is still a huge event laden with many weights that need to be measured very carefully.
Even when this difficult work has been done and the “reluctant” spouse agrees to the mediation and hence, the separation, it doesn’t always guarantee that the march to the finish will be a straight line. I’ve had more than a few mediations where the spouse who pressed for the divorce began what I can only call the “dance to the edge,” only to back away at the last minute.
Read the rest of Ada’s article to learn how to mediate the successful conclusion of a marriage.